How to React Rather Than to Respond Emotionally
- Aron Gross
- April 19, 2024
- 2:53 pm
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We’ve all been there – something triggers us, and before we know it, we’re reacting emotionally instead of responding thoughtfully. The fast pace of modern life often leaves us feeling overwhelmed, making it difficult to keep our cool in challenging situations.
But what if there was a way to pause, get in touch with your body, and respond from a grounded, centered place? This is the essence of somatic healing, an approach that emphasizes the mind-body connection and holistic transformation.
The Difference Between Reacting and Responding
When we react emotionally, we’re operating solely from the mind, disconnected from the wisdom of the body. We might lash out, shut down, or make rash decisions driven by strong feelings like anger, fear, or sadness. In contrast, responding somatically involves tuning into the physical sensations and felt experiences in the body, which allows us to navigate challenges with more presence and clarity.
The Body Keeps the Score
Often, we carry unresolved emotional experiences stuck in the body as tension, constriction, or other physical manifestations. Even after we’ve “dealt with” an issue mentally, these somatic imprints can linger, influencing our reactions in the present moment. True healing happens when we include the body in the process, allowing stuck emotions and memories to be felt, expressed, and released on a visceral level.
Building Your Somatic Resourcing
One powerful somatic technique is to create a “resource” or safe space to anchor into whenever you feel triggered. This could be a peaceful memory, an imagined sanctuary, or simply a comforting physical sensation. Link this resource to an “anchor” – a subtle physical gesture like placing your hand on your heart. Next time you feel overwhelmed, touch that anchor point, and allow the safe, grounded feelings to wash over you. From this centered state, you’ll be better equipped to respond wisely instead of reacting impulsively.
The Jellyfish Way
Our nervous systems are designed to self-regulate, pulsing between states of stress and relaxation like the movement of a jellyfish. Chronic stress occurs when we get stuck in that contracted, tense state without releasing back into ease. Learning to consciously flow between tension and letting go, like the ebb and flow of the tides, is key to embodying greater resilience.
Slow Down to Shift Gears
In our productivity-obsessed culture, we often bulldoze through stress rather than honoring the body’s need for integration and rest. Pausing to tune into your somatic experience creates a circuit breaker, allowing you to reset and make more skillful choices. With practice, this simple art of slowing down and getting embodied becomes an invaluable tool for navigating life’s inevitable storms with newfound grace.
The journey of somatic healing is ultimately about reclaiming your full humanity by reuniting with the innate wisdom of the body. As you strengthen your capacity to respond rather than react, you open the door to a deeper way of being – more present, grounded, and true to your essential self. The path isn’t always easy, but embracing a somatic approach can be a powerful catalyst for profound transformation.
Want to learn more? Watch the full video on somatic healing at https://youtu.be/1HxAihPi2p0?si=eIKnsfSlgXhh4ZG\_
If you’re ready to dive deeper into somatic work, book a session with somatic coach Aron Gross at https://arongross.com/book-session-now/ to begin your journey of embodied transformation.